从今以后，
不论安居困苦、富裕贫穷、健康病弱，
我都敬爱你，守护你，
直到永远。
我为此真心立约。
我为此真心立约。
不论安居困苦、富裕贫穷、健康病弱，
我都敬爱你，守护你，
直到永远。
我为此真心立约。
我为此真心立约。
Saturday, December 31, 2011
Saturday, November 12, 2011
三十
曾以为遥远的三十，
一眨眼就是。
曾以为这一日，
会大写熟女宣言，
大声宣布单身并不令人厌。
可没想到，
这一天的七天后，
我就要成为别人的家后。
现在的我，
感觉疲惫，
所以没有什么宣言。
然而空气中的一股喜悦，
从家人亲戚朋友那儿传来的喜悦，
也感染着我的思绪，
尽管仍然很累。
除了累，
我真的很好。
如果这都不叫幸福的话，
我也不知道什么才叫幸福了。
没有宣言，
却有小小愿望。
希望身体健康，
知足惜福。
生日快乐。：）
一眨眼就是。
曾以为这一日，
会大写熟女宣言，
大声宣布单身并不令人厌。
可没想到，
这一天的七天后，
我就要成为别人的家后。
现在的我，
感觉疲惫，
所以没有什么宣言。
然而空气中的一股喜悦，
从家人亲戚朋友那儿传来的喜悦，
也感染着我的思绪，
尽管仍然很累。
除了累，
我真的很好。
如果这都不叫幸福的话，
我也不知道什么才叫幸福了。
没有宣言，
却有小小愿望。
希望身体健康，
知足惜福。
生日快乐。：）
Saturday, September 03, 2011
Sunday, August 14, 2011
Tuesdays with Morries
All I have is a voice
To undo the folded lie,
The romantic lie in the brain
Of the sensual man-in-the-street
And the lie of Authority
Whose buildings grope the sky:
There is no such thing as the State
And no one exists alone;
Hunger allows no choice
To the citizen or the police;
We must love one another or die.
Defenseless under the night
Our world in stupor lies;
Yet, dotted everywhere,
Ironic points of light
Flash out wherever the Just
Exchange their messages:
May I, composed like them
Of Eros and of dust,
Beleaguered by the same
Negation and despair,
Show an affirming flame."
— W.H. Auden
To undo the folded lie,
The romantic lie in the brain
Of the sensual man-in-the-street
And the lie of Authority
Whose buildings grope the sky:
There is no such thing as the State
And no one exists alone;
Hunger allows no choice
To the citizen or the police;
We must love one another or die.
Defenseless under the night
Our world in stupor lies;
Yet, dotted everywhere,
Ironic points of light
Flash out wherever the Just
Exchange their messages:
May I, composed like them
Of Eros and of dust,
Beleaguered by the same
Negation and despair,
Show an affirming flame."
— W.H. Auden
Saturday, July 23, 2011
Injustice to blame all
I read with great disappointment Theresa Tan’s (Saturday, 23rd July) report “Late (great) expectations ” as it seemed to me that all fingers are being pointed to the couples, especially the fairer sex, for Singapore’s declining birth rate and delayed parenthood.
What is being reported is only skin deep and does not reflect the real issues involved.
As much as I know that there are people who put off parenthood because they wanted more for themselves and are not ready. They do not represent the population being mentioned in this report.
Let us think about it. A young Singaporean will only complete Junior College at the age of 18 and tertiary education at probably 23. Two more years are to be added if they are required to serve National Service. Will a rational person be thinking of getting married and having babies when you probably cannot even support yourself?
For an average Singaporean who does not have rich parents to pay for their tertiary education, had to take a loan and pay the tertiary education once they graduated. It probably takes around 2 years or more for the loan to be fully paid. Here, we are assuming that he/she found a job immediately upon graduation, which might not be the case. Will you be thinking of getting married and having babies at this stage?
By the time this Singaporean is financially stable enough to take care of someone else, he/she will be in the late twenties. By this time, he/she is probably attached, but not long enough to decide if this person is the one. Should they be applying for a BTO now because by the time they really want to get married, they will be unable to pay for that atrocious COV of the resale market and will have to wait for at least three or more years for balloting, results, building of BTO, getting of keys and renovation of house. Should they take the risk of being slapped by a fine, should their relationship change within these 3 years before getting married?
Here, we are not even taking into consideration those who put so much time into studies and work, and are left single in their late twenties. Their marriage will probably come much later through no fault of theirs in a rat-race society like ours.
Having children can only come after a couple has a roof over their head. They are not waiting for all stars to align, but just want to be more responsible towards another precious life. Will you be thinking of having babies when you are married but living apart because you cannot afford a resale flat, but have no luck or unable to wait for three years for BTO? Not all couples are able to stay with the in-laws, taking into account that most of us are living in a shoe-box.
Having babies is more than just statistics. There are many factors that come into play. Why would anyone put themselves through the agony of IVF if not for the circumstances they are in?
Please do not blame all on the people, before taking a good look at the policies and reality.
What is being reported is only skin deep and does not reflect the real issues involved.
As much as I know that there are people who put off parenthood because they wanted more for themselves and are not ready. They do not represent the population being mentioned in this report.
Let us think about it. A young Singaporean will only complete Junior College at the age of 18 and tertiary education at probably 23. Two more years are to be added if they are required to serve National Service. Will a rational person be thinking of getting married and having babies when you probably cannot even support yourself?
For an average Singaporean who does not have rich parents to pay for their tertiary education, had to take a loan and pay the tertiary education once they graduated. It probably takes around 2 years or more for the loan to be fully paid. Here, we are assuming that he/she found a job immediately upon graduation, which might not be the case. Will you be thinking of getting married and having babies at this stage?
By the time this Singaporean is financially stable enough to take care of someone else, he/she will be in the late twenties. By this time, he/she is probably attached, but not long enough to decide if this person is the one. Should they be applying for a BTO now because by the time they really want to get married, they will be unable to pay for that atrocious COV of the resale market and will have to wait for at least three or more years for balloting, results, building of BTO, getting of keys and renovation of house. Should they take the risk of being slapped by a fine, should their relationship change within these 3 years before getting married?
Here, we are not even taking into consideration those who put so much time into studies and work, and are left single in their late twenties. Their marriage will probably come much later through no fault of theirs in a rat-race society like ours.
Having children can only come after a couple has a roof over their head. They are not waiting for all stars to align, but just want to be more responsible towards another precious life. Will you be thinking of having babies when you are married but living apart because you cannot afford a resale flat, but have no luck or unable to wait for three years for BTO? Not all couples are able to stay with the in-laws, taking into account that most of us are living in a shoe-box.
Having babies is more than just statistics. There are many factors that come into play. Why would anyone put themselves through the agony of IVF if not for the circumstances they are in?
Please do not blame all on the people, before taking a good look at the policies and reality.
Friday, July 01, 2011
Enough
I totally do not like the fact that the mood and emotions of my day
is constantly under the effect of a bigger wave
that really at the very root
has nothing to do with me.
is constantly under the effect of a bigger wave
that really at the very root
has nothing to do with me.
Everytime it happens
I wish I have a home of my own.
A home I know where there is love
constant love, understanding and communication.
I am sorry I can't be
that big-hearted to contain whatever shit
you guys decided to embark on
and wouldn't let go.
I am tired of all these.
I just want to
stay peaceful and happy every day.
Yes, maybe weary
and a few complains here and there
but nevertheless happy and with peace.
Why is it so difficult?
Sorry,
but I want out.
Since I can't solve your problems,
and grant you the happiness
that maybe you dont even desire,
I have to fight for my own.
This is it.
This is it.
Thursday, May 12, 2011
Staying positive
Negativity
like parasites
slowly eat into your soul
when it is allowed long enough to dwell
You need the strength of your mind
to push it away whenever it comes near
And take time to focus back
to the things in life
that bring you joy
warm your heart
soothe your soul
Take time to understand
what really are important
the journey you should start embarking
for the future you dream of
When you start living your life
and focus on making it better
you will find it is really not that difficult
to live a precious moment
not negate in it
like parasites
slowly eat into your soul
when it is allowed long enough to dwell
You need the strength of your mind
to push it away whenever it comes near
And take time to focus back
to the things in life
that bring you joy
warm your heart
soothe your soul
Take time to understand
what really are important
the journey you should start embarking
for the future you dream of
When you start living your life
and focus on making it better
you will find it is really not that difficult
to live a precious moment
not negate in it
Monday, April 04, 2011
Monday, February 28, 2011
Sunday, February 20, 2011
Sunday, February 13, 2011
For my valentine
It's been three good years,
since that Valentine's Day, your first bouquet to me,
asking me to give this relationship a chance.
You have been a great friend,
my most intimate soulmate and a generous lover.
What life would be if I never let you in,
I cannot imagine.
I love you.
Thank you for loving me too.
since that Valentine's Day, your first bouquet to me,
asking me to give this relationship a chance.
You have been a great friend,
my most intimate soulmate and a generous lover.
What life would be if I never let you in,
I cannot imagine.
I love you.
Thank you for loving me too.
Thursday, January 20, 2011
Eyes wide open
It has been a very bad week.
Hypocrites, talebearers, backstabbers, self-absorbers, self-victimizers;
you name it, I've got it.
Such days somehow cleanse your eyes,
allowing you to see better
false friends, true enemies
and people who really care.
I couldn't have gone through these,
without my ever so supportive fiance and lovely sister.
I have a very bad week,
but I have people who love me.
That is more important.
This week will pass,
I will come out wiser and stronger.
Hypocrites, talebearers, backstabbers, self-absorbers, self-victimizers;
you name it, I've got it.
Such days somehow cleanse your eyes,
allowing you to see better
false friends, true enemies
and people who really care.
I couldn't have gone through these,
without my ever so supportive fiance and lovely sister.
I have a very bad week,
but I have people who love me.
That is more important.
This week will pass,
I will come out wiser and stronger.
Sunday, January 09, 2011
Love and other drugs
You meet thousands of people
and then you meet one person
and your whole life is changed,
forever.
and then you meet one person
and your whole life is changed,
forever.
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