Thursday, December 31, 2009

Going forward 2010

2009 has been a very eventful year.

I have accomplished nothing,
but was made to see clearly things,
that were previously uncertain of.

My health took a serious setback,
forcing me to go to and fro SGH and TTSH
to search for the cause and a solution.

CS went through 2 surgeries in CGH,
that made me realise how important he is to me.

I came to see,
how much adults can behave like children,
come as a clique to ostracise and bully.

Yet the emotional trauma they inflicted,
was done in a more subtle and silent way,
and hell, ya, it hurts,
but everybody will keep pretending
that whatever shit they do,
everything is still ok.

In the midst of these chaos,
God brought me angels.

Whatever God He is,
I am very grateful for them.

I am grateful
that everytime I was at my low,
someone will come to me,
put a hand on my shoulder,
and allow me to be in their company,
with no agenda, and no obligations,
just being there, in their warmth.

I am grateful for CS,
who walked with me through all these,
and never fail to put back that smile on my face.

2009 has not been a good year,
but I shall not dwell on it.

I went to 四马路观音堂 that day to pray.

I drew a lot,
that says badly of what is to come in 2010.

I prayed again and I told Her,
that whatever is to come in 2010,
I will face it.

I will not falter,
and I will find a solution to it.

Whatever it is,
I will do whatever it takes.

So that will be my 2010.

I shall be strong,
and I will be healthy and happy.




Monday, December 28, 2009

Doors

You take this road,
you're not sure where it leads

but once you take it,
another road comes in,
another junction comes in.

So you really do not know,
because you have not taken that road.


~~ Robert Frost ~~


Friday, December 25, 2009

My Christmas


is peaceful, beautiful, full of Love

and

Sky-high :)









Singapore is so beautiful at night.
















Thank you for giving me so much love.

I love you too.




Thursday, December 24, 2009

圣诞快乐



Merry Christmas everyone :)

Life may be tough,
but we shall get over it,
play and be merry while we can.

Hugs and kisses,
Me.



Tuesday, December 22, 2009

我很怕
如果一直这样下去
将来会怎样
但我不能害怕
我必须相信
一切会有解决的办法
我要相信
一切会好起来的
然后不再去想
不再去猜
好好做自己能做的
然后继续相信

我很怕
但是我要相信


Sunday, December 20, 2009

The amazing daze - 19th Dec 09

CS got to know of this race.

Seeing that my brother had FUN playing the Cola race last weekend,
we decided to join it for some fun as well.

We were deciding where to meet while waiting for the first clue,
and somehow, for some reason, we decided to wait at my place.

Then at 12.50pm,
came the first clue via email.



By then, it was raining very heavily.

My place was a good 20min bus ride from the MRT,
so we decided to take a cab there in the end.

We waited and waited,
then something interesting happened.

A malay boy came out of nowhere,
and started to walked in front of us,
braving the rain, to hail a cab.

We thought that he needed the cab more,
hence we did not stop him.

To our surprise,
he got the cab and directed it to us!

He was actually waiting for the bus,
and never intended to take a cab after all.

So in we board the cab,
thanking him profusedly.


Our first pitstop is Kreta Ayer CC.

I didn't managed to take any photos,
as I already have problems completing the challenge.

Luckily my game master is a nice man,
who kept whispering the answers to me. :D

Then our next clue.


CS immediately knew where to go,
so off we went to MINT, the toy musuem.


The next challenge was easier,
solving a jigsaw puzzle.

I finished the challenge rather quickly,
and spent some time admiring the interesting exhibits.







Our 3rd clue - the deadly clue.




We both thought it was referring to Mount Faber,
so we took a cab all the way to the top of it.

But we couldn't find anything,
or rather, anyone.

We see no contestents there,
nor any sight of the organisers.

We asked around, was given wrong information,
asked around again, ran here and there.

I think we covered almost the entire Mt Faber,
before finally have an idea of how to go to
Telok Blangah Green.





On our way to Telok Blangah Green,
through Henderson Waves.


We were really tired then,
CS didn't even have the mood to take out his camera and take photos of a place
he kept wanting to visit and do photography.

Okay, from then, no more photos.

And so the story goes,
we finally reach the pitstop,
and like a bad drama,
the game master smile apologetically to us and say,
" Sorry, but you're the last team to arrive."

Fine, they didn't exactly say that.

They told us that all prizes were taken,
and many did not complete the race because of the rain.

So we took some pictures to prove that we were THERE,
and then took the tree top walk to go down to the main road.



Another long journey down....








And then finally, a glimpse of civilisation!


Then we took a cab to Plaza Singapura for dinner, afterwhich we went on to walk down Orchard Road for some photo-taking. :)

We were really bustling with energy huh?


This year's Orchard Road is beautiful.

Reminds us of Christmas in Bangkok. :)


There were a lot of festive singing and performance.



Oh, and I took the above picture,
stopping in the middle of the road while crossing it.









I love Christmas :)

Can't wait for my Christmas surprise.








Friday, December 18, 2009

Almost fraud

Went shopping and massage session
with Mother and little sister today.

The entire day was good,
except for sister's bad cough;
and the massage was better,
except for their scheming hardsell.

The after-massage experience was so terrible,
I felt threatened to do whatever I can to protect my own interest.

Still Mother was the experienced one,
coming to my rescue and demanding them
to return the unsigned credit card bill.

I am thankful for UOB credit card call centre personnel as well,
for telling the Body Wellness manager my rights,
and advising me on how to deal with the situation.

Fancy trying to lie to me,
and force me pay for something I did not intend to pay for.

I understand when you try to hardsell,
because it is your job to do so.

But lying through your teeth is another matter.

I totally am disgusted with liars.

I am not ever going back there again.



Wednesday, December 16, 2009

The mundane

Yesterday was a very enjoyable day.

Went to my last yoga session with Brandi,
a very enjoyable session.

Michelle, one of the instructors
whom I have much respect for was there as well,
and when I was in the changing room,
I heard Lina's (another instructor) voice.

For a moment I felt like I am really going to miss
yoga practice with all these instructors.

But no.

Think about the monies saved
and that I no longer need to drag myself every week
all the way to Takashimaya at pushing timings,
I am sort of glad this comes to an end.

From now on I will pace myself,
to swim / run / play badminton / do yoga for an hour,
at least once a week.

This blog shall be my witness. :D

After lunch,
we went to watch New Moon.

And it got me so confused about where my heart lies,
vampires or werewolves?

I love Edward,
his knowledge and wisdom,
the way he often so beautifully speak of his love.
Minus the fangs.

But I tell you,
Jacob is HOT.

Okay, his body is HOT,
but his intensity is irresistible.

My heart is totally with him.

After the movie,
I kept pushing him to choose which he wants to be.

He insisted on being human,
and commented that it's a crap plot,
making the girl to choose between 2 monsters.

Sigh, yeah...
it's so tough to need to choose
between 2 mesmerising monsters.

Nevertheless,
it was wonderful day.

Sometimes things so simple,
can make life so wonderful. :)

I love Edward, I love Jacob;
and most of all,
I love you most. :)

Friday, December 11, 2009

Homecoming from TW

Tonight our newcomer has a little orientation around our house.







Welcome to Singapore! You little evil Plankton!




Mwahahahahah!








Wednesday, December 09, 2009

Wise words






Just want to share this, pertaining to what I wrote earlier.



信念

许多事情我们无法控制,

所以要给予时间证实,
然后尽自己的本分实施。

不论好坏,
不管喜欢与否,
时间仍继续跑着,
生活仍需继续过着。

你可以选择的是,
你要乐观积极地渡过这个难关,
还是自怨自艾地沉醉在自以为凄惨不堪的境况。

这个,
给自己,给太阳,
还有生活不顺利的你。

看待事情的角度,
往往是一念之间的观点形成的。

这世界很大。

只要眼角再放宽、放大一些,
你原以为巨大的污点,
其实就变得渺小。

我相信 否极泰来

一切不好的,
总有一天会过去的。

没有人会永远沉在“不好”之中,
就像世界上的许多原理一样,
有起就一定有落。

有落,
也就一定有起的一天。

祝愿失落的人都振作起来,
继续尽自己的力量让明天过得更好。

祝福身体不适的人身体快点好起来,
然后好好享受这美丽的世界所给予的一切。

May happiness be with us all.


Thursday, December 03, 2009

Our merry little Christmas

me : I love Christmas! :) I want a white Christmas tree in the our home next time.

CS : Huh? Why white? Gets dirty very easily...

me : I like white... we will take it out every Christmas...

CS : Don't buy... it's very mah fun to keep it after that...

me : hmp! I want.

CS : okok.. we rent.

me : I want. :(

CS : okok.. we buy...


~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~


And so as promised,
we shall have a Christmas tree,
in a lovely cosy corner of our future love-nest.








I can't wait for that day to come. :)



Sunday, November 29, 2009

The silver lining

We spent the Sunday watching TVB TV series,
and shortlisting the possible flats of our choice.

That is, if we are able to get ahead of the queue in the ballot.

Whatever it is,
if we do get it, we will be happy,
and then will pray harder for the flats
to be completed much earlier, way before August 2012,
which doesn't yet include the renovation phase.

If we do not get it,
perhaps it's meant to be for us to buy a resale.

Hm... I wonder if my indian neighbours are intending to relocate.

We could jolly-well buy their unit,
and Dad said he will buy the area outside,
setting up fences and building a garden and playground.

We will have the whole floor to ourselves. :)

See, there are still things to look forward to,
you silly depressing girl.

It's the holidays,
and you shall be happy and nothing else.
Everything will turn out well.

Even if it doesn't,
there will be a way out.

You can only make things better,
by doing what you can do,
and think positively.

Enjoy this break.

Take time to sleep well,
to maintain a balance diet,
to have enough exerise and keep yourself fit.

You are so crucial,
to whether you make it or break it.

Treat yourself better.

Love yourself,
so that you can love others better.

And please never lose faith,
for everything will be well,
eventually.

Friday, November 27, 2009

To be as Water

The warrior of light sometimes behave like water,
flowing around the obstacles he encounters.

Occasionally, resisting might mean being destroyed,
and so he adapts to the circumstances.

He accepts without complaint that
the stones along the path hinders his way
across the mountains.

Therein lies the strength of water:
it cannot be shattered by a hammer or wounded by a knife.
The strongest sword in the world cannot scar its surface.

The waters of a river adapt themselves
to whatever route proves possible,
but the river never forgets its one objective:
The Sea.

So fragile at its source,
it gradually gathers the strength
of the other rivers it encounters.

And, after a certain point,
its power is absolute.


~~~ Manual of the Warrior of Light, Paulo Coelho ~~~



Wednesday, November 25, 2009

These days



I feel extremely weary.

I wish everything will turn out fine.

Please be with us.


Friday, November 20, 2009

Thank you

for loving me

for bearing with
my occasional mood swings
and at times unreasonable demands

for coming all the way
from east to north to wait for me
when i was caught in late evenings at work

for coming down
to look for me after work
when you hear unhappiness in my voice
when things don't go well
when weariness got the better of me

thank you for you

i never thought
anyone could be loved
or rather i would be loved
like the way you love me

and i want you to know
that I love you too

Thursday, November 12, 2009

Thoughts


A warrior of light sometimes thinks,
"If I do not do something, it will not be done."

It's not quite something like that.

He must act,

but he must allow room
for the Universe to act too.


On the first day of year 28th


I wish for Health.

Not just for me,
but everybody else.

My family, my love,
my friends and colleagues,
and those who also wanted to get well.

Dear God,
let us be well.


Tuesday, November 10, 2009

Ramblings

Terminated my Pure Yoga contract.
My consultant's reaction
affirmed my decision not to continue.
So now I have to complete 8 sessions from now till 14th Dec,
and it doesn't daunt me any bit.
I am someone who become tougher,
when challenged.
Ans so what if I can't finish all 8 sessions?
Told CS that the end of yoga contract
doesn't mean the end of exercise routine.
I don't want us to be a "nuah" couple.
I want us to go out exercise at least once in a fortnight,
swim, play badminton or whatever.
That happened on Monday.
Another thing that happened as well that day,
was a bomb that landed in the email,
requiring immediate planning.
Though "no obligations",
I knew I had to do it.
Somehow I have a feeling,
it is going to affect my future in some way or another.
Despite all these,
there are still angels around.
S, S and D,
lovely people with beautiful souls,
totally perked up my days.
Visited CJ today.
I miss CJ :)
Hope that this week will pass by smoothly.
I love you very much. :)
I can't wait to have a home of our own.


Wednesday, November 04, 2009

Friday, October 30, 2009

Dear God

Please be with me,
as I journey my way for a healthier body.

Please be with me,
when the mind cannot be
as strong and positive as it should be.

Please be with me,
when obstacles are met,
and events do not turned out as planned.

Please be with me,
when tempers flew faster than thoughts.

Please be with me,
when nonsensical provocations persist,
polluting the air with dense negativity.

Dear God,
please be with me,
as I try to find my way through
this life, this body, this mind.



Thursday, October 29, 2009

On a side note

It felt terrible
to have BITCHES at your workplace,
taking every opportunity,
to take you down.

Stop scratching my ass, will you?

I seriously do not have time to
Kick back Yours.


Health Log [29 Oct 09]

Went TTSH to see the ENT specialist today.

It was a long visit with long waiting time,
but worth the wait nevertheless.

Told the doctor (a rather good-looking doctor ;p)
all that has happened over the past few months,
and then he asked a few questions about my nasal condition.

He told me that I do not have sinus,
as I previously believed myself to have.
Instead, i have Rhinitis.
(If I remember clearly,
学姐 you have rhinitis too right?)

Following this Q&A was an endoscope,
through my nose to examine my throat.

I was quite taken aback,
as I do not expect it to be done today.

Doc told me after that my throat is fine,
so it should not be a condition of Tonsillitis.

However, the sides of my throat
are reddish and sightly swollen.

And guess what?

I am back to Omeprazole,
because I revealed to him that I reduced
the dosage the previous NHC Doc prescibed.

Sigh, that's the retribution of not trusting your Doc.

Doc says that I should take as per prescribed,
because only then will they know if my condition
is really caused by acid reflux.

And I was given a type of nasal spray,
everything for 2 months before I see him again.

I asked if I need to do a scope for my gastro,
he told me that he can refer me if I want,
but even if I go to gastro and confirmed my condition,
the medicine that they will give me,
will still be Omeprazole.

If Omeprazole don't work,
then will they do a biopsy
to confirm the existence of bacteria,
and I will most probably be given
a kind of triple-action antibiotics.

Since there is no difference,
I decided to trust him,
take the medicine for 2 months
and see how it goes.

Although I was not given any special treatment,
other than what I have had, somehow I felt better.

I felt understood,
and felt that I better understand what's going on.
I felt I understand the rationale behind my treatment,
and what is going to happen if the treatment fails.

It feels good to be able to Understand my body.

Tuesday, October 27, 2009

Bliss

If you are wondering why,
I now am able to go online more easily at night,
that's because of CS's netbook.

Because of him,
I can browse the internet, surf facebook and blog,
all done in the comfort of my air-conditioned cosy bedroom.





I am blessed. :)


Though I greedily wish for more blessings,
at the end of November.




Please grant us a house we can call home.





Blunder

It was Friday,
and most of us will be released around noon.

Was discussing with 皇兄 via sms,
our plans for the next half of the day,
missing CS badly at the same time.

Hence in the midst of confusion,
the below words were sent to 皇兄.


Honey busy?


And I did not realised it,
until 皇兄replied,


Erm... Quite free.. Erm......


Monday, October 26, 2009

Everything in its time

All these negativity,
from all means coming through my path,
are all very random.

Yet today I understand once again,
the greater the repulsion,
the tougher I become.

I will let things be,
for it is clear to me,

all will give an answer,
everything in its time.


Thursday, October 22, 2009

Lullaby

妹妹 sings:

Rock-a-bye baby on the treetop,
When the wind blows, the cradle will rock.
When the bough breaks, the cradle will fall.
And down will come baby, cradle and all.

Then she tells me,
never to sing this lullaby to my children next time.

Whoever wrote this song,
is so very perverted.

Hm... I've never seen this song in that light.


Monday, October 19, 2009

I forgive

我在意吗?

老实说,
那怨妇俩儿一唱一合的时候,
真的很惹人厌。

但是今天听到,
她那样说我们的时候,
只觉得她很可笑。

慧啊慧,
如果你在读的话,
我想我们要在环境没有明朗化之前,
不断提醒对方:

It's Mind over Matter.

We do not mind,
because they do not matter.

不论她们多卑鄙,多无耻,多幼稚,多无知,
也只不过是同事而已,
无需我们那么介意,那么痛苦。

我们可以做的,应该做的,
可以以和为贵的,应该忍下来,
都已经尽了人事。

就像我那天在她们面前说的,
对于一切在工作上令人厌烦的,
I forgive。

I forgive,
because I can.

You cannot forgive,
because you are meant to be forgiven.

人生尽管有如此恶人,
仍是无限美好。:)

Saturday, October 17, 2009

Waste of time

The warrior of light chooses his enemies.

He knows what he is capable of;

he does not have to go about the world
boasting his qualities and virtues.

Nevertheless, there is always someone
who wants to prove himself better than he is.

For the warrior, there is no "better" or worse:
everyone has the necessary gifts for his particular path.

But certain people persist.

They provoke and offend and
do everything they can to irritate him.

At that point, his heart says:
" Do not respond to these insults, they will not increase your abilities.
You will tire yourself needlessly."

A warrior of light does not waste his time
listening to provocations.

He has a destiny to fulfil.


~~ Paulo Coelho ~~



Thursday, October 15, 2009

In search of the path

An abbot asked his disciple,
“How does a man choose his Path?”

“Through sacrifice.
A path that demands sacrifice is a true path.”

The abbot bumped into a bookcase.
A very rare vase fell down
and the young man threw himself to the floor to pick it up.
He fell the wrong way and broke his arm.
But he was able to save the vase.

“Which sacrifice is greater,
to see the vase breaking down or breaking an arm to save it?”

“I don’t know.”

“So then,
do not try to guide your choice through sacrifice.

The path is chosen
by our capacity of compromising
with each step we make while we walk.”


~~ Paulo Coelho ~~



~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~

I always consider thoroughly through my options,
as I make plans for the future.

Yet the future is filled with the unknown.

Thus I remind myself,
that I must remain unfazed and calm in its face.

As changes approach,
I must adapt and rethink my possible paths.

There is no need to despair,
for when one door closes, another opens.




Sunday, October 11, 2009

The risky climb

In the middle of a storm,
a pilgrim reaches an inn and the owner asks where he is going.

“I’m going to the mountains,” he answers.

“Forget it,” says the innkeeper,
“it’s a risky climb, and the weather is awful.”

“But I’m going up,” answers the pilgrim,

“if my heart gets there first,
it will be easy to follow it with my body.”


~~ Paulo Coelho ~~


Wednesday, October 07, 2009

关系

人与人之间的关系,
真的很微妙。

可以因为一个眼神陷入僵局,
也能够因为彼此放轻态度,
而化解冰山。

有时候,
越是不用言语所表达的,
越是让对方感觉强烈。

然后因为没有澄清,
这种莫名的情绪就这样,
延续,伸长,蔓延,
侵蚀了仅存的关系、友谊。

仍然莫名其妙,依然感到惋惜,
然而也只能这样。

因为那堵墙,
那堵骤然变得巨大无比的隐形墙,
已经将近在咫尺的我们远远隔离。

人与人之间的关系,
我想我还要学习,
在不一味依附的自我下,
给其他人更多的包容。



Sunday, October 04, 2009

醒来时,
感觉莫名的疲惫和一股悲伤。

有些人和事,
在不知不觉中产生了变化;
表面的若无其事,
更加深了心里的无力感。

没有明说的,
并不代表不存在;
然而存在的,是否都是真实?

我们都因为太急于保护自己,
所以仓促地决定自己的反应,
然而反应的,是否都是正确的?

我其实没有力量去改变什么,
因为每个人都有自己的一套想法,
而许多想法早在不知不觉中根深蒂固。

对于那些重要的,
我在尽力。

如果还是不可以,
我只能说对不起。

对于那些不能改变的,
我必须释然。

希望更豁达的面对,
能让日子更简单。



Thursday, October 01, 2009

Dear God

Please grant me

SERENITY

to accept the things I cannot change;

COURAGE

to change the things I can;

WISDOM

to know the difference.



Monday, September 28, 2009

Weary

You cannot imagine
how draining it is for the body and mind,

for one to wait from 1.45pm to 3.30pm,
to see an unprofessional professional at work,

then to have to doubt his indecisive decision,
and find flaws in his paperwork,
which you suspect will bring you another round of pointless wait,

and then to have other staff ping-ing and pong-ing you around,
either because no one wants to be responsible,
or everyone feels that they are to busy to handle your queries.

I have to remind myself,
that I do this for an easier future financial-wise.
Singapore seriously needs to revamp the polyclinic system.



Sunday, September 27, 2009

Health Log [27 Sept 09]

Yesterday CS brought me to
the Eu Yan Sang TCM Clinic
at Plaza Singapura.

My very first visit to a TCM Physician.

When we got there,
this counter staff was giving a patient,
her medicine packed in many packets.
I frowned and immediately turned to CS,
telling him I don't want to take so much medicine.

Then another staff start explaining to me the fees,
and she mentioned acupuncture.
Once again I frowned and turned to CS,
telling him I also don't want acupuncture.

I think I am really not used to it,
and everything seemed to put me off.

CS felt it and ask me to decide
if I still want to see the physician.

No point seeing the doctor
if I have such strong cognitive dissonance.

I know I am just being unreasonably judgmental,
so i went ahead with it,
treating it as another experience.

So this senior physician Yu beckoned me into the room,
and I dragged CS along.

He then asked me some questions,
and help me 把脉.

He said:“你的脉象很乱。”
Whatever that means.

Then he said I have weak lungs and heart,
and told me to drink more water and sleep earlier.
(Ya, like I don't know already.)

Then he decided to give me some medicine,
to strengthen my body constitution.

When CS asked him
if there is a probablity of my throat growing polyps (生茧),
he suddenly became defensive, and said there is no such thing.

What?! There is such thing lor.
Hello, I've read medical journals about it?

Anyway, the entire session lasted less than 10mins.

When we came out,
we drank the red date tea that was served outside.
The only better experience since we came in.
And CS simply loved the sweet that was served at the counter.

Altogether we paid $69 for 7 days of medicine.
That is a lot of bitter medicine to take :(

And the first thing CS said when he came out,
is that even if I get well, I will not attribute it to TCM,
because I was so skeptical.

Fine, I will be a good girl
and take the bitter medicine faithfully.

But I will still want an endoscope,
to find out what's going on inside.

And whether I will go and see that physician again,
we shall keep our fingers crossed, and see how.

Saturday, September 26, 2009

NOT soon

And after doing out the budgeted excel sheet,

it showed that
you need at least 85K

if you want a proper banquet
with all those important miscellaneous,
a lovely house to call your own with furniture,
and that honeymoon you have been dreaming about.

Now would those who mind
a Ritz Carton Shangri-La buffet-style banquet,
please stand up?

Sun & Moon has been very very poor,
especially spending all those monies
on cab, doctor and medicine.

Sigh.




Monday, September 21, 2009

其实若你常见我,
你并不会感觉我有什么异状,
只是变得沉默多了。

因为说多两句就想咳嗽,
胸口就阵阵发痒,
所以除非真的骨鲠在喉,
不然会选择聆听。

最近在网络上寻查,也读了很多,
关于类似的病因,可能解决、舒缓的方式。

这当然不能代替医生,
但我就是一个这样的病人。

我需要清楚的知道,
我的身体到底发生了什么事,
而你身为医生是如何去看待我的问题,
然后决定以怎样的疗程去帮助我。

今年看了很多医生,
发现有些医生根本不想和你多解释。

然而他们不明白,
我们需要更了解,才能更好地照顾自己。

我觉得很讽刺的是,
有些医生的决定,
是我读了网络的一些医学资料才明白的。

而我现在也只能等待,
等SGH给我一个更靠近的日期看医,
然后希望那里的医生可以解决我的问题。

CS 一直要我去看一下中医,
就算不能解决问题,就当作去调理身体。

身体啊身体,
对不起,我没有好好照顾你。

快好起来吧,我答应你,
从今以后绝对不会亏待你。

请你和我一起努力,
找回往昔的体魄和精力,
去完成那许许多多的想法和经历。


Friday, September 18, 2009

Health Log [18 Sept 09]

For some reason,
I called National Heart Centre (NHC),
trying to ask if there is an earlier slot,
rather waiting till December.

I got through finally,
and the person on the other line
offered me an afternoon slot today.

It came as a surprise.
I wasn't prepared to see Doc so early,
hence I decided on a later slot in late October.

However after putting down the phone,
something kept bugging me,
hence I called back again, changed it to today,
and apologised for being indecisive.

And so I went down to NHC immediately after work,
with an unsettling feeling.

Waited for an hour before I was called into the room,
but I must say, the friendly and professional staff at SGH,
make me feel at ease.

I used to have a negative impression
of the staff in the Singapore public hospitals.
Now I wonder where did that come from.

Anyway in I went to my appointed room,
and was pleasantly surprised the doctor who greeted me,
was not the young chap who go roundabout with my questions,
but a much older version of him with the same surname,
and more kindness, patience and presence.

After reading through my medical files,
asking my condition and doing a check-up,
he said that he can Assure me that for now,
it does not look like I have any block arteries.

He emphasized on the Assurance,
and he continue to say that he felt that,
the problem is still bothering me.

I must have unknowingly shown much of the
emotions and shivering I was trying to hide,
when I was recalling when it first happened.

I didn't realised it still scares me a lot.

I told him that the previous doctor (which I think is his son),
suspected that it was acid reflux,
and gave me 2 months of medicine supply.

He asked if they made me feel better.

I told him they made me feel constantly hungry,
and intensified the nauseous feeling I had been having,
and the bloatedness and fullness in the stomach.

Then i told him about what Dr Hui said,
the itch in my throat and the cough.

He said that it could possibly be given my symptoms,
and coughing due to acid reflux,
is actually more common than we think.

He then asked if I would like to be referred
to a gastroneology specialist.

I told him I don't know.
I am confused by everything
that is happening to me altogether,
I don't know what to think.

I asked for his opinion,
and he concluded that he will refer me to the specialist,
and keep me in an open appointment for 2 years,
just in case I still feel the need to see him.
So I might be doing the endoscope after all.

Going to the doctor always makes me feel drained,
especially when I have to do it alone.
But I am glad I did what i have to do.

I want to find out what is going on with my body,
why do i experience such abnormalities.

Then at least I know what I can do for my body,
to nurse it back to health,
to live this life.

Please be with me, and guide me along.





Tuesday, September 15, 2009

Health Log [15 Sept 09]

Went to see Dr Hui again.

Not flu, not fever,
just the itch in my throat,
that has been around for a month.

This time it became so painful to touch,
I decided that I shouldn't procrastinate,
despite really not wanting to see doctor again.

I can't tell you how much I've tried,
to not see Doc and settle this "problem" myself.

I spent so much money on this 止咳汤 and 千层纸,
and my condition just fluctuates and fluctuates.

On good days I can talk and laugh as usual,
even though at the end on it,
the condition will worsen.

And so I went.

Dr Hui checked my breathing and throat,
and he seemed unsure.

I think he couldn't find or see (he was peering down my throat),
anything wrong with me.

I try to remind him that my throat hurts,
and he did some checking here and there.

Then he told me that for my profession,
I tend to get throat infection more easily.

He said he will give me some medicine (Xepasone) to control the irritation,
and if doesn't gets well when the medication is finished,
I should see him again for a referral to a specialist for scope.

He said I can continue to take Tussil 5 to control my cough,
though I have repeatedly told him,
I have been taking Tussil 5 for a MONTH already. :(

Then he asked if I have anymore questions.

So I told him that I felt better after taking the nasal spray,
having no more sudden "flu" out of nowhere.

And I told him that I still get occasional attacks,
the feeling of not able to breath proper,
and heart palpitation,
though not very frequent.

I told him I observed such attacks,
to be often very near or within the period of my menstruation.

Then he seemed lost,
and kept flipping and flipping through my medical log.

And then I have to remind him again,
of what i told him about 2 months ago,
regarding National Heart Centre and that doctor,
who couldn't find anything wrong with me,
and then prescribed me Acid Reflux medication,
which did not make me any better.

I told him I was confused as to whether,
do I still go and see the doctor?
do I still take the medication?
(Though I think I do have mild acid reflux)

I told him that I am worried about this condition,
that comes and goes without any signs,
and I hope to find out the cause.

And then I told him that I am worried,
that when I am pregnant,
my current condition will affect my child.
(Well, just too many of the people around me are pregnant.)

Maybe I asked too many questions.
Maybe he is not feeling well as well.

From the confusion on his face earlier,
it changed to weariness.

From then,
he just kept telling me not to worry,
not answering to any of my questions.

I came out of the room,
feeling dissatisfied.

However, I do not blame him.

On my way home I kept thinking,
he is just like me,
earning a living.

Just like me,
he has to pretend to be well,
and has the ability to solve everyone's problem,
when the truth may be that he himself,
is as helpless and needed that good long break.

Frankly,
I think I look more genki than him.

Nevertheless,
this throat issue gives me a good push,
to execute plans that have been on the mind,
for quite some time.

I need a change in direction,
and plenty of prayers.

Tuesday, September 08, 2009

Differences

Once again,
CS & I went into a discussion,
on the kind of housing to look for,
and what was adviced from my parents.

Once again,
I was the one who started the discussion,
and the one who "do not want to talk about it anymore".

Thinking about these makes me feel excited,
but discussing about them in reality however,
wear me down really.

Trying to get into a marriage is really not easy,
less to say already on one.

It felt like a project two embarked on.

You discuss, reconcile and compromise.
And that's only the beginning.

At the end of it,
when you lie on your bed,
exhausted by the whole string of events,
you realised that you are actually on your way to,
another bigger project.

Marriage itself.

I'm grateful that,
CS and I do not work out differences,
in a quarrelsome manner.

And I am really grateful,
for his tolerance and patience.

Especially,
when my hormones get the better of me.



Friends

A friend called this morning,
when I was still in bed,
half-asleep half-awake.

He was making arrangements with me,
so that we can travel together to attend
a royal birthday cum house-warming.

It felt good,
when I was done with the call,
bringing back happy moments I had,
with this bunch of friends.

Mature, respectful and non-obligated,
yet taking care of each other whenever together.

We do not have to meet very often,
yet when we do, we always feel very comfortable.

Different people have very different expectations of
Friends.

Some people require their friends
to reciprocate their every good intention,
and attend their every little gathering.

They feel that friends should be like partners.

They should do things together,
and be so close that no other people can come between.

If they do not try as hard as they do,
then they will feel that this person,
is not worthy of their friendship,
and will only be an acquaintance.

Others are more tolerant.

They do not enforce an unsaid obligation on friends,
and have so high of an expectation of them.

They look out for them,
whenever they are together,
yet they do not expect them to meet up every now and then.

They are more inclusive and friendlier,
to people beyond their "cliques",
making them feel welcome and safe.

I enjoy the company of such friends.

If I were to do something for them,
I know it is because I want to do it,
not out of pressure nor obligation.

I do not like to do things because of peer pressure,
this will feel very suffocating and too teenager.

I do not expect friends to be like my partner,
neither do I want them to expect such of me.

But I will still keep a look out for them,
and they, I know they will, for me.

No obligations, no expectations,
always based on trust, respectful and understanding.

But of course,
there are then people who take advantage of such friends,
meeting them only when they need help or want something.

There is no right or wrong,
just a matter of choice and personality.

So which are you,
and which do you want to be?



Friday, September 04, 2009

Pollution pollution.

I simply do not like the Lunar 7th month.

Has Indonesia not done enough,
to pollute our once clean air,
that we have to fill it with smoke again,
with the endless burning and burning,
on the once beautiful green grass,
on the once clean cement floor.

I really do not like all that is happening.



Tuesday, September 01, 2009

感激


感谢

8月31日2009年。

早上起来,
不再有前两年的兴奋,
仿佛少了某种热忱,却多了一点平静。

今年,
感觉过心寒,
经历过无力和生气,
然后释怀、麻木,却又不想放弃。

付出了更多的精力,
去处理一群非常早熟,
或是迷惑、畏惧、被欺,
或是顽劣、欺善、无理的小顽皮。

当然,
那不是我唯一的一班。

仍是有另一群比较乖巧,
令人心动的孩子,
让人期待每一天的见面。

今年的人数少,
不觉得会“大包小包”,
反而感觉轻松,更期待今天的假期。

然而,
仍是被感动了。

原来那心力交瘁,
能换来一些懂事,一些感激。

更欣慰的是,
许多几年前的学生,如今都进了名校,
却仍回来探访,献上真心感激和礼物。

It makes me feel that these 3 years,
despite the ups-and-downs,
I must have done something right.

所以三年,并非空白,
尽管感觉似乎已被淘空。

你们感谢我,
在你们生命里留下痕迹;
我却更要感谢你们,
让我更明白这三年的意义。

不管会不会继续下去,
再次被填满的心,
能让自己更有力气。

这份职业其实需要很多鼓励和感激。

我不知道其他国家是如何,
但是新加坡的老师真的当得很不容易。

请不要再以为,
老师们是一放学就等于下班。

请不要再以为,
当老师钱赚得很多,而且很容易。

除了一堆的作业,
不论在办公室或家里都要猛改死改外,

老师也是保姆,
随时随地都得看着学生,
寸步不能离。

老师也是拉拉队长,
有时喊破了喉咙,
却敌不过那股令人心寒的意兴阑珊。

老师更是全职活动策划者(events planner),
一整天可以在学校忙进忙出,
却不只在忙学习上的事。

在新加坡,老师是全能的。

老师们还必须做许多琐琐碎碎、耗时,
外人却又不晓得的事情。

在那么多的乱七八糟中,
老师难免容易感到疲惫无力。

然后会有几种情况发生。

如果仍有热忱,就会继续努力。

如果已死心,却需要这份收入,
就会催眠自己麻木。

如果还年轻,可以重新再来,
就会另谋高就。

不然就渐渐地,缓缓地,
五年... 十年... 二十年。

如果你曾有过一位很好的老师,
不论哪是多久以前的事,

请你一定要告诉他/她,
他/她所作的一切并非枉然。

请你一定要提醒他/她,
至今仍影响着你的教导和那份爱。

因为疲惫会让人忘记,
这一切的意义。



Sunday, August 30, 2009

五月天!





最重要的小事

昨日,
最重要的小事。

到室内体育场,
与五月天一起创造 DNA,
狂欢、呐喊、活爽。

尽管一开始,
觉得位子真的很糟糕,
唯一的优点就如 RY 的朋友所说,
靠近厕所。

但是演唱会一开始,
我们都不顾保安人员的阻止涌上前去,
让自己 $178+$3 的付出得到回馈。

然后一整晚,
就站着、跳着、摆动着、呐喊着。

尽管除了位子外,
音响也很糟,
五月天唱到下半场,
好像都已经露出疲惫了。

这样真得很不公平,
因为我们是买预购的票哦,
而且一直以为只会有一场,
如今变成我们是第二场,
让五月天在第一场就把精力消耗得七七八八了。

但是但是,
我刚才有讲“尽管”。

昨晚的高潮,
就是五月天所答应大家,
要给昨晚的50名幸运观众能在,
演唱会后与五月天拍照握手。

阿信到后面就叫我们所有的人,
都回去自己的位子,
然后把手放在椅子下,
看看下面有没有信封。

懵懂的 RY 一伸手就拿出信封,
然后他以为每个人都会有。

PS 立刻转过去抓住那个信封不松手 ,
然后激动地要 RY 让给她。

所以呢,
到了演唱会结束后,
PS 得以和五月天合照,
皆大欢喜。:)

让人更欢喜的是,
Man U 昨天赢了! :D

好的开始是成功的一半噢。

忘了提,
如果昨晚你也有去,
而且一直在看荧幕,
那么有没有注意到,
一直被拍到的那三个一直在摆动着的,
红色心型荧光棒?

那就是我,PS 和 CS 了!





Friday, August 28, 2009

blabberish

i am in the midst of markings,
feeling really worn out right now,
missing someone very badly and
did i tell you i saw some blackish weirdo stuff,
hanging around the void deck on the opposite block,
at a weirdo timing of afternoon 4 o'clock,
that i thought might freak the hell out of me,
but calm as i was, i just say to myself that,
i am tired enough, please don't come and try scare me now,
and i said a prayer after,
the infamous "Our Father in heaven",
and i reminded myself that,
i should learn to memorise the "Mother of God" prayer as well,
and then i tried to remember the buddhist chants,
that i used to learn in Maha Bodhi,
that USED to be ever so helpful in bad dreams,
and then i try to chant it in full faith,
and then i start to think about my future home,
if i should have a cross or a buddha's stautue,
or can i have both, since i am pretty well-taught in both,
then i thought of my recent falling health,
and i thought of the rising housing prices,
then i thought of the stupid September holidays packed with work,
and i thought of my burst bulb that kept me in darkness,
then i thought of my father who never help me buy lightbulb,
and i thought of the MayDay concert i can't sing along in,
then i thought of the amount of money i spent on,
buying medicine and health-nourishing products,
and then i thought of my nauseated feeling in the morning,
then the Tussil 5 that are not working,
and the flu that have not been here,
for quite some time since i took Tamiflu,
then i thought of going to take the flu vaccine,
and then i try to convince myself,
that you know,
despite all these,
it might not be so bad after all,
because you wouldn't know,
it can be worse for all.



Sunday, August 23, 2009

Dear God...

Please be with me,
as I work with this vulnerable body of mine.

I promise to take good care of it,
and make it well again.

Please let everything be fine.

Just as before...



Saturday, August 22, 2009

really


next time remind me,
not to cry myself silly.

unless i want to wake up again,
with eyes so swollen,
i can barely open.